Anything Goes

Got this from Netskie at Multiply and since I’m in a long-distance-relationship myself, thought I’d share this to people who are also in the same situation.

One of the most difficult parts of a long distance or online relationship is handling the fact that you are not physically there with your partner. This lack of physical presence can make the whole relationship seem like an illusion. I am sure that almost every person in an LDR has wondered at some point about whether the relationship was actually real or just wishful thinking. With this in mind, it is very important to create a presence for yourself in your partner’s life to provide a stable reality that you are a couple and that you are a part of one another. Listed below are some ideas and resources to help you achieve this.

Communication

1. Don’t fall out of touch, even for a short time

* Return all e-mails at the earliest opportunity
* If you are going out of town or are otherwise going to be unable to respond, let your partner know as soon as possible so they don’t think something is wrong or start to have doubts.
* Keep all online dates.

2. Talk regularly through voice chat or via the telephone

* Your voice adds that touch of reality to the relationship and makes you more than just text on a screen

3. Video Chat if possible or at least send pictures regularly

* Can you imagine how differently you would feel if you could actually see your partner when you talk to them? You can bet that they would feel the same. Rather than having to imagine how you looked when you laughed or smiled, they could actually see it.
* It nullify’s any of those doubts you have about whether they will like the way you look.

4. Get to know as much as you can about each other

* Tell your partner about your day to day life, your friends, your relatives, your job etc. Make them feel like they are an integral part of your life. At the same time, find out as much as you can about them too

5. Be there when needed

* One of the worst mistakes you can make in any relationship is to not be there for your partner when they need you. This is especially true of a long distance relationship as there are already inherent doubts and this will just reinforce those doubts.
* Seek your partner’s advice, listen to what they say and make them feel special and important to you.

Love

Love is the backbone of any relationship. As long as the other partner feels that you completely and unconditionally love them, those doubts will not have a chance to creep in. It is up to you to make sure they know exactly how you feel about them. Some ideas include:

1. Reinforce your affection with poems, stories and love letters
2. Send them care packages, postcards and gifts
3. Create a personalized love craft and send it to them

Presence
Make sure you have a presence in your partner’s life. Continually reinforce the fact that you are there, that this relationship is real and there is no way that you are going to let a little thing like distance get in your way. If you do the things listed above, you will create a good presence in your relationship.

Thought I’d share something that I read everyday, posted inside my closet…:)

I PROMISE MYSELF…

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

CHRISTIAN D. LARSON

I hope this would perk up your everyday. Read it out loud and feel good about yourself!

I gained 10 lbs after my vacation leave…

It’s been a month now and I’m still 10 lbs heavier…

And today, I’m craving for sweets…

What Pasta Dish Are You?

You Are Macaroni and Cheese

Compared to most people, you are quite playful. You are a big kid at heart. It doesn’t take much to make you happy. You live for simple, happy moments. You are very content. You don’t try to make life overly complicated. You remain thankful for whatever you have. Even if it isn’t much, you make the best of things.

He pointed the gun in his mouth and pulled the trigger in an attempt of suicide while having a drinking spree with his buddies…he was rushed to the hospital…the bullet remained lodged in his upper cervical spine…he was alive.

I’m surprised I didn’t feel anything. I saw his kids, 2 little girls, who were too innocent to know what their father did. But something in me envy them…

At least their father is alive…

Here’s some of the quotes I’ve written back when I couldn’t write longer posts. It just says it all. These are my originals quotes, hence, I call it the "Ella Quotes…"

"Being lonely is the hardest of all feelings. And its even harder when the people around you are happy. It’s hard to pretend you’re fine. Worst of all, it’s hard to write down what you feel. It’s too overwhelming."

"Loneliness drags down your energy level. It makes you feel sick. It makes you feel pessimistic. It makes you feel worse about yourself and about life. It makes you feel hopeless and worthless. It’s like you have no control over matter. You just let everything happen."

"In work, grab every opportunity to work overtime, even when you’re tired or overworked. It’s better than spending idle moments sulking, thinking and wondering why the universe is against you."

Being a positive thinker, you deny all your negative thoughts and block all the negative energy. It’s like living in a fantasy world where everything turns out fine, when in reality, everything crumbles down."

Note: These quotes were written when I was depressed. It’s not intended to burst someone’s bubble. Stay happy!!! It’s the best medicine…:)

1. Do you want to grow old with someone or be single?

♥ grow young with someone…

2. What were you doing at 8:00 this morning?

♥ reading Love in the Time of Cholera

3. What were you doing in last 30 minutes?
♥ editing my multiply account

4. What was something that happened to you in 1998?
♥ I became a Physical Therapist.

5. If you were stranded on an island with the person you hated and without food what would you do?
♥ try to survive…
6. When someone catches your eye, do you try to make an eye contact or avoid it?
♥ depends on who’s eyeing you..
7. What color is your comb?
♥ blue..
8. What was the last thing you bought?
♥ dinner
9. How do u know when ur in love?
♥ i have butterflies in my tummy…
10. Have you been to China?
♥ hongkong lang…
11. Where do you keep your money?
♥ bank
12. Do you wish you were back together with any of your exes?
♥ I don’t have one(^_^)..
13. Do you like peanut butter?
♥ yes
14. Have you been to EUROPE?
♥ not yet
15. Dream country?
♥ paris, vatican
16. The things you love about relationships?
♥ all of it…
17. The thing you love about being single?
♥ no strings attached…
18. Would you give up a dream for someone you loved?
♥ of course not!
19. Do you wanna cut your hair?
♥ nope.
20. Are you over the age of 25?
♥ do i look like it?
21. Do you talk a lot?
♥ nope…
25. Favorite ice cream?
♥ vanilla…you can add anything to it…
26. Could you date someone who has been only your friend for a long time?
♥ sure…
27. Are you typically a jealous person?
♥ nope…
28. Is there such thing as perfect relationship?
♥ nope..
32. Do you chew on your straws?
♥ nope…
33. Do you have curly hair?
♥ wavy is more like it…
35. The kind of the person you’re first attracted to?
♥ his sense of humor
37. What is something you say a lot?
♥ nothing…
40. Do you have to work tomorrow?
♥ yes…
41. Who was the last person you said I love you too?
♥ jess

Two mothers were busy talking when I entered the room to give their sick child medicines. They were both watching me as I put the IV medicine in the soluset.

Mother 1: Ilang taon ka na? (How old are you?)

Mother 2: Oo nga, ilang taon ka na? (Yeah, how old are you?)

Me: (smiling) Ba’t bigla kayong na-curious? Hulaan nyo…(Why the sudden curiosity? Why don’t we play a guessing game…)

Mother 1:Sige, sige…24? (Ok, ok…24?)

Mother 2: Hindi! Tingin ko 22!N(o! I think it’s 22!)

Me: (leaving the room with a satisfied smile and turned to mother 2.) Ate, winner ka! Ahahahaha!